I've got Kanye's "Stronger" pumping through my ear buds (a good throwback) and I'm in a go-get-em kind of mood. Good mood to wake up in, but a hard one to maintain. I'll be starting a new life in a few weeks and next week I'll be traveling across the world. Newness is the best thirst-quenching-appetite- killer I have experienced. I've been referencing one of my favorite quotes recently, mentally reciting it in my head when my to-do list becomes as scary as a girl sporting UGGs and a mini skirt.
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
Twenty four words that give meaning to my twenty four years of life. For those of you who have just graduated college, I highly suggest you write this down on your hand and carry it with you. This thought has given me a flashlight in the alleyways that are reality. Life in your twenties is the adventure that only half of us will have. I've been realizing this more and more recently that some of the friends I know and love will not be with me when it comes down to the finish line. The dreamers will dream and the do-ers will do. Unfortunately there will come a point where the two diverge. Remember Robert Frost talking about the "road less traveled by?" Well that's a real thing. Everyday we decide whether we continue down the path with thorns and rocks, or if we turn around and hurry home to familiarity and blankets.
My twenties so far have shown me that I can't always be control. A hard realization for a former honors student to accept. My Type A personality harps on the idea that everything is in my control, but with every rope I untie, there's a freedom in letting the universe come at you. That's where the adventure begins and the explorer in us takes form. I mean... Drew Carey gets it.
People look at my post graduation life (quite often) and have no qualms in telling me what's wrong with it. Allow me to share some of my favorites...
"You're dating a guy in the military?!"
"Wait... you only see your boyfriend three times a year...?"
"You're moving somewhere where you don't know anyone?"
"You're leaving home for the unknown????"
My reply to all of the above is a resounding Yes. Because this is my story and if I'm going to keep this blog going than I better do some things worth reading about. I usually follow up with a Why not?
But sometimes holding up a mirror to people can reveal truths that would rather hide under cardigans and in between bangles. It's hard to ignore reality in your twenties and at times even harder to accept it.
I look to the next chapter of my life with the same tenacity I felt on my first day of high school. Some say your first day of high school is the first day of the rest of your life, and I have to say I agree with them. In four years I transformed from a class clown rocking pink pants to an emo dreamer, and finished at a tiffany-wearing-polo-prepster. And now? Well now I'm sitting at a coffee shop wearing a pair of yogies and a Green Bay Packer's tank. Fashion is the greatest way to show our individual evolution and today I just want to be comfy.
The next chapter holds a closet full of clothes I've never seen. It full of dresses I'd never thought I'd wear, and shoes I'm not sure how I'll walk in. But that's where the life that's waiting for us begins. It starts the moment we shake hands with risk and slide into an outfit that allows the world to see a new side of us. Us twenty-somethings are world's trendsetters. Let's make risk-taking chic.
Let's make life's plan for us the new black.